Monday, June 29, 2009

Stress Management Techniques

Since it is almost impossible to avoid stress altogether, it is important to learn how to manage it. Failure to do so could lead to diseases, depression, and an unhealthy, unhappy lifestyle. If you want to avoid kidney failure, heart failure, stroke, high blood pressure, and other related conditions, you must learn proper stress management techniques. Here are a few suggestions to help you cope with, and reduce stress.

Keep things in perspective.
Our perception, or the way we view a problem, determines our response and stress level. It helps greatly if you are able to keep your problems in focus or perspective, in order to develop an appropriate reaction. Everyone experiences annoyances such as having to wait in lines or being stuck in traffic. The initial response of most people is to become annoyed or worried. Instead, you should make a conscious effort to avoid this response and try to relax. Some things are outside of your control and it is pointless and unhealthy to worry or fuss about them. Try focusing on something else that is more pleasant and positive. Sing, whistle, listen to music… do something positive to take your mind off the problem.


Practice assertive behavior.
When dealing with problems try to be assertive rather than aggressive. The theory of assertive behavior is that every person has certain basic rights. If those rights are being infringed then by all means address it… but in a civilized, confident manner. If you have to address the person responsible for causing your problems, maintain eye contact with them, stand or sit straight and steady, and speak confidently in a clear voice. This stress management technique is not always easy, but as you practice it your confidence will begin to increase and you will become better at it. You will find that problems are resolved much more easily and you will maintain a much lower stress level.


Be realistic when setting goals.
Realistic goal setting may sound simple but is an important stress management technique. Very often we set unrealistic goals and then become frustrated and stressed-out when we do not achieve them. The key to proper goal setting is to first understand exactly what it will take to accomplish a particular goal, then assess whether we are equipped to realistically achieve it. Ask yourself questions such as:
Do I have the finances?
Do I have the time?
Do I have the expertise?
Do I have the energy?
Do I have the tools?
Do I have the resources?
Goal setting is a good stress management technique, but only if the goals can be realistically accomplished. Sometimes it is difficult to determine how achievable a goal is, but continuous assessment can help. If you realize that your goals are unrealistic, don’t be afraid to revise them. This will help to make the task less daunting and stressful.


Learn time management.
Time management techniques are an integral part of stress management. If you are able to implement this strategy you will find that you are able to achieve your goals more efficiently and effectively. Time management involves setting priorities and allocating sufficient time to accomplish your tasks.
Keep an appointment book or calendar to organize your time and remind yourself of important dated and events. At the beginning of each day, write down task and events in order of priority. Write next to each event or task the estimated time it would take to complete it. Don’t try to crowd too many things into one day. Make allowances for setbacks and allow yourself time to relax. At the end of each day or at the beginning of the following day, evaluate your list to see what was accomplished and use it as a guide when preparing your next list.
If your are able to implement some of these simple time management techniques into your daily routine, you will find that you are able to accomplish a lot more each day and you will feel less frustrated and stressed out.


Watch your diet and limit certain foods.
Not many people associate diet with stress management, but it plays an important part. Consumption of certain foods can cause chemical reactions that leave you feeling irritated. Eating foods with high amounts of caffeine, such as colas, chocolate, coffee and some teas, and foods with high concentrations of sugar, such as candies and some snacks, can cause you to be irritable and less able to cope with stress. Eating a nutritious, balanced diet will help you look good and perform better, making you less susceptible to stress. A balanced diet is not only necessary for optimizing health but is also a key stress management technique.


Use exercise to reduce stress.
Exercise can be a very beneficial way to reduce stress. It will use up the excess adrenaline produced to prepare you for the fight or flight response, allowing your heart rate, respiration rate, and blood pressure to return to normal. In addition, as you exercise you improve your fitness level, which will keep you from being easily fatigued and better able to cope with negative stressors. Similar to diet, exercise is multi-purpose, in that it is necessary for health optimization and is also an effective stress management technique.


Learn stress diversion activities.
Another useful stress management technique is to participate in activities that can reduce, eliminate, or divert tension. Such activities include:
Listening to your favorite music
Play an instrument
Take a long walk
Take a trip to the beach, park, or shopping mall
Read a good book
Take time to enjoy your pet
Go to a movie or to the zoo
Work on a hobby or craft – write, paint, create something
Participate in sports or recreational activities
Learn something new – a new language or skill
Research things of interest – surf the Internet.


There are many other activities that can be used for relaxation and stress management. Just find something that is enjoyable to you.
Stress management and the ability to cope with stress are important skills for maintaining good physical and mental health. Failure to reduce stress can lead to illnesses such as heart disease, stroke, high blood pressure, migraine headaches, stomach ulcers, neck and lower back pains, bowel problems, anxiety, and kidney problems. Stress can also affect certain skin conditions, such as acne and hives. To avoid or minimize many of these conditions, learn to implement and practice at least some of the stress management techniques outlined above.

"You are what you eat"

Wednesday, June 24, 2009

Joke Ver II

A woman is having an affair during the day while her husband is at work . Her nine-year-old son comes home unexpectedly, sees the illegal lovers and hides in the bedroom cupboard to watch. Then the woman's husband unexpectedly comes home. She hides her lover in the cupboard, not realizing that her little boy is in there already.

The little Boy says: 'Dark in here.'
The Man says: 'Yes, it is.'
Boy: 'I have a soccer ball, do you want to buy it?'
Man: 'No, thanks.'
Boy: 'My dad's outside, I'll call him if you don't buy it!'
Man: 'OK, how much?' Boy: '$1,000.'

A few weeks later it happened again , and the boy and the lover were in the cupboard together again.

Boy: 'Dark in here..'
Man: 'Yes, it is.'
Boy: 'I have soccer boots.'
The Man, remembering the last time, asks the boy: 'How much?'
The Boy says :'$5,000.'
The Man says: 'Fine, I will buy them.'

A few days later, the Father says to the boy: 'Grab your ball and boots, let's go outside and have a game.' The Boy says: 'I can't, I sold them for $ 6,000.'

The Father says: 'That's terrible to overcharge your friends like that... $ 6,000 is way more than those two things cost. I'm going to take you to church and make you confess your 'SINS.'
They go to church and the father makes the little boy sit in the confession booth and he closes the door.

The Boy says: 'Dark in here.'
The Priest says: 'Don't start that again!'

THIS IS MY CHURCH, NOT YOUR FATHER'S HOUSE!!!!

Tuesday, June 23, 2009

Joke Ver I

Why I fired my secretary...
Last week was my birthday and I didn't feel very well waking up that morning....
I went downstairs for breakfast hoping my wife would be pleasant and say, “HAPPY BIRTHDAY!", and possibly have a present for me.
As it turned out, she barely said good morning, let alone "HAPPY BIRTHDAY.
"I thought...well, that's marriage for you, but the kids will remember. My kids came into breakfast and didn't say a word; :(

So when I left for the office, I was feeling pretty low and somewhat despondent.

As I walked into my office, my secretary Mia said, "Good morning, Boss, “HAPPY BIRTHDAY!"
It felt a little better that at least someone had remembered. I worked until one o'clock and then Mia knocked on my door and said, "You know, it's such beatifyl day outside, and it's your birthday, let's go out to lunch, just you and me".
I said, "thanks Mia, that's the greatesr thing I've heard all day. Let's go!"

We went to lunch, but we didn't go where we normally would go.
We dined instead at a little place with a private table.
We had two martinis each and I enjoyed the meal tremendously on the way back to the office, Mia said,
"You know, it's such a beatiful day...we don't need to go back to the office, do we?"
I responded, "I guess not. What do you have in mind?"
She said, "Let's go to my apartment."
After arriving at her apartment Mia turned to me and said,
"Boss, if you don't mind, I'm going to step into the bedroom for a moment. I'll be right back" "Ok"I nervously replied..

She went into bedroom and, after a couple of minutes, she came out carrying a huge birthday cake... followed by my wife, kids, and dozens of my friends and co-workders, all singing "HAPPY BIRTHDAY". and I just sat there...on the couch...naked..
Eyes catching on greenery and in rainy days


Wednesday, June 17, 2009

How to Stay Happy Always

1. Throw out nonessential numbers
This includes age, weight and height. Let the doctors worry about them, this is why you pay them.

2. Keep only cheerful friends...
The grouches pull you down. (Keep this in mind if you are one of those grouches!)

3. Keep learning
Learn more about the computer, art, history, gardening, whatever!Never let the brain get idle. 'An idle mind is the devil's workshop.' And the devil's name is Alzheimer's!

4. Enjoy the simple things

5. Laugh often, long and loud
Laugh until you gasp for breath. And if you have a friend who makes you laugh, spend lots and lots of time with him or her!

6. The tears happen
Endure, grieve. Then go on. The only person who is with us our entire life is ourself. LIVE while you are alive. Those who loved you but are gone will understand and applaud!

7. Surround yourself with what you love
Whether it's family, pets, keepsakes, music, plants, hobbies or whatever. Your home is your refuge.

8. Cherish your health
If it is good, preserve it. If it is unstable, improve it. If it is beyond what you can improve, get help.

9. Don't take guilt trips
Take a trip to the mall, even to a foreign country, but NOT to where the guilt is.

10. Tell the people you love that you love them, at every opportunity.

You are what you think..if you think to be happy today, there you are!